A conciousness about privacy
It has been interesting to delve a little more into the world of midwives in my area, and the world of older women as well - I was only 25 when my son was born and I had just recently escaped (aptly put) a cult-ish church to work in a real world job; at that time, I worked through my pregnancy and then became a SAHM with the company of my small child(then children). SO, I am almost approaching everything with new-er eyes... and it is a little strange! Once, a long time ago I told my Dad that people never really grow up, they just come up with more sophisticated ways of covering their same immature reactions, thoughts and habits. Amazingly, that (then arrogant) statement is still kind of true!
Recently I went to a meeting where friends (midwives) were and a case was discussed... and in the midst of that, prior and after, the gossip was going! I am not above knowing some of what someone is doing... or hearing about it or whatever, but to talk about it out of frustration... I don't do that often and it was like overload. There was one midwife (the one I apprentice with and adore) who never opened her mouth, maybe said, "I don't know" or whatever, but that was it. She obviously doesn't try to take part in that women-eat-women activity. It was interesting to watch... and I made a mental note to ignore future escapades of the tongue when it happens in ear-shot. To be honest, it makes me sad to hear about people's lives, and I am so busy with my own that I almost don't want to be bothered about theirs too (what an awful thought isn't it?). I just kind of would rather not know... for both my sake and their sake. I HATE HATE HATE when people spread my news or life-bits around and I know I'm not the only one...
And so I was wondering, maybe I shouldn't post birth stories here... there isn't (or doesn't seem to me like there is) a way you could know who I am talking about, and it gives me a place to rejoice, vent, learn by re-living/examining later, and such... but it doesn't have to be where everyone can read it.
Any thoughts on that? I just don't want to cross boundaries (knowingly or unknowingly) with such sensitive information - I forget a lot of things (including my kids' names sometimes) but I never forget the details of my births you know? So that is why I'm wondering. Until another day.
Recently I went to a meeting where friends (midwives) were and a case was discussed... and in the midst of that, prior and after, the gossip was going! I am not above knowing some of what someone is doing... or hearing about it or whatever, but to talk about it out of frustration... I don't do that often and it was like overload. There was one midwife (the one I apprentice with and adore) who never opened her mouth, maybe said, "I don't know" or whatever, but that was it. She obviously doesn't try to take part in that women-eat-women activity. It was interesting to watch... and I made a mental note to ignore future escapades of the tongue when it happens in ear-shot. To be honest, it makes me sad to hear about people's lives, and I am so busy with my own that I almost don't want to be bothered about theirs too (what an awful thought isn't it?). I just kind of would rather not know... for both my sake and their sake. I HATE HATE HATE when people spread my news or life-bits around and I know I'm not the only one...
And so I was wondering, maybe I shouldn't post birth stories here... there isn't (or doesn't seem to me like there is) a way you could know who I am talking about, and it gives me a place to rejoice, vent, learn by re-living/examining later, and such... but it doesn't have to be where everyone can read it.
Any thoughts on that? I just don't want to cross boundaries (knowingly or unknowingly) with such sensitive information - I forget a lot of things (including my kids' names sometimes) but I never forget the details of my births you know? So that is why I'm wondering. Until another day.
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